(Picture is of three of us who have walked this journey with each other and with women around the world.)
The best thing we can do—not just for ourselves, but for everyone around us—is to face our insecurities.
Why?
Because insecurity doesn’t stay hidden. It leaks.
It seeps into the way we love our families.
It shapes the way we lead.
It colors our decisions, our reactions, and our relationships.
Unchecked, insecurity can create distance where God intended closeness. It can cause us to control instead of trust, compare instead of celebrate, and withdraw instead of engage.
But here’s the good news: when we face our insecurities with Jesus, we step into freedom.
God’s Perspective on Our Identity
Scripture reminds us:
“I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.”
— Psalm 139:14 NIV
Insecurity tells us we’re not enough.
God tells us we’re His masterpiece (Ephesians 2:10).
Insecurity whispers that others are better, smarter, more spiritual.
God reminds us He has given each of us unique gifts and callings (1 Corinthians 12:4–6).
Insecurity says, “If they really knew me, they wouldn’t accept me.”
God says, “I know you fully, and I love you completely” (Romans 8:38–39).
Leadership and Insecurity
If you’re in any position of leadership—whether in your family, workplace, ministry, or community—your insecurities can ripple outward.
- An insecure leader may withhold encouragement because they fear being overshadowed.
- An insecure parent may push too hard because they feel their child’s choices reflect their worth.
- An insecure friend may distance themselves because of fear of rejection.
But when we face our insecurities in the light of God’s love, the ripple shifts—what once carried fear now carries freedom, courage, and peace.
Facing Insecurities with Jesus
So how do we actually face them?
- Name Them Honestly.
Pretending doesn’t bring healing. Confess your insecurity before God. He already knows. - Ask Jesus What He Sees.
Instead of rehearsing lies, invite Him to speak truth into those places. - Renew Your Mind with Scripture.
Replace insecurity with identity. Soak in verses like 2 Timothy 1:7 (“For God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control”). - Invite Safe Community.
Walk with people who will remind you who you are in Christ when you forget.
Reflection Questions
- Where am I noticing insecurity creeping into my relationships or leadership?
- What lie have I been believing about myself?
- Jesus, what do You want to say to me about this?
- How might my relationships shift if I led from security in You instead of insecurity in myself?
Closing Thought
Facing our insecurities isn’t about fixing ourselves—it’s about letting Jesus heal the root. When He does, everyone around us feels the difference.
Your family. Your friends. Those you lead.
They don’t need a “perfect you.”
They need the secure you—rooted in Christ, free to love deeply, and unafraid to live authentically.
PS…
Prayer Declaration to Overcome Insecurity
Father, thank You that I am fearfully and wonderfully made.
I renounce every lie that says I am not enough, unworthy, or inadequate.
Jesus, I declare that my identity is secure in You.
You chose me, redeemed me, and called me Your beloved.
I am not defined by my failures, my past, or others’ opinions.
Holy Spirit, fill me with Your truth and courage today.
I declare that I walk in power, love, and self-control (2 Timothy 1:7).
I will not shrink back in fear but step forward in faith.
I choose to lead, love, and live from a place of security in Christ.
I declare that my words will encourage, my presence will bring peace,
and my actions will reflect Your love.
Today, I fix my eyes on Jesus—my confidence, my strength, my identity.
In Him, I lack nothing.
Amen. 🙏
Bless you as you pause and receive His words of encouragement,
Merri Ellen 🙂
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