Discipling others is one of my favourite things! I have discipled men, women, boys and girls. Each person is unique and one of a kind. Below are some helps, but first…
What is disciple making?
(Spiritual life coaching, mentoring… whatever you name it…)
To me it is a lifestyle of intentional spiritual friendships.
…It is doing life together with one or more people. It’s walking out a journey together. Each journey is different just like each person is different! Jesus spent most of his time with 12 men and a few women. That’s it. He was not about huge numbers.
I’m all about organic lifestyle disciple making and I love intergenerational relationships especially. (Titus 2 is a favourite passage of mine.) I know we love our programs, but programs are only launch pads for intentional relationships.
[By the way… when programs fall short…
If we spend years doing a program and no disciples come out of it, it’s time to throw out the ‘sacred cow’ program and start from scratch…!
Listen to the Holy Spirit for the next appointment. It’s way more fun and fruitful to go back to the Coach for the new play!]
One of my favourite basic books on living a disciple making lifestyle is: The Invested Life: Making Disciples of All Nations One Person at a Time
The book asks these key questions:
- Who is discipling you?
- Who are you discipling?
It shares the makings of a good disciple-maker. Here are some… He/she…
- practices hospitality (Romans 12:9-13).
- cares for the whole person (Luke 2:52).
- helps their team master the basics of the faith (1 Timothy 4:1-5).
- helps their team learn to share their faith with all people everywhere (1 Timothy 2:1-8).
- helps their team learn how to make disciples of all nations (Matthew 28:18–20; 2 Timothy 2:2).
- helps their team members become wise spiritual leaders (1 Timothy 3:1-10).
Before I meet with someone or a group of people to mentor/disciple them, I am in prayer asking the Holy Spirit to lead the conversation. Most often there simply needs to be intentional listening, asking open ended questions, and praying. (I’m still learning this… and don’t pretend to be perfect.)
When we do intentional study, my favourite study methods are Reflective Readings simply using God’s Word.
From time to time those whom I mentor and disciple request materials to go through. When they do, or I sense we need to study some basics, I have referenced the following material to assist us in our journey together… letting the Spirit lead as we go…
There you go! Just some basics. Nothing scary. Just don’t rely on your own strength. God knows best what the person needs. Pray, pray, pray! Of course you’re going to make mistakes. You’re human. God redeems and turns our errors into victories!